Here's the link (mind
never work for some reason):
The
REAL Joan Apter
And here's the URL just in case:
http://www.ideachampions.com/staff.shtml#joan
Note how Joan and Ditkoff are doing the same
thing as Dettmers, trying to rationalize away their
cult fanaticism as 'management consulting'.
My favorite quote from the site?
Well it's all so shlocky but there are a few
choice blurbs that must have special significance
for the (former?) cult members in the company.
Here's one:
'Face the Music
Proof that the Millennium is upon
us
Face the Music is a highly
accomplished, interactive business blues band that
gives participants a constructive way to express
their corporate blues, while simulaneously sparking
teamwork, risk taking and innnovation. A perfect
way to energize participants and launch a company
conference. Recent clients include: GE, Panasonic,
Aventis, Con Edison and Ernst & Young.'
Here's another:
'Keynotes
Interactive, 60-90 minute presentations that
help people get off their 'ifs, ands or buts' and
into creative action. Topics include: 'Free the
Genie,' 'Beyond Limiting Assumptions,' 'Leading
Indicators of an Innovator,' 'Creative Thinking
101,' 'Fostering Innovation in the Workplace,'
'Idea Greenhouse,' and 'Reinventing
Retirement.''
But then, there's this bizarre
thingamajigger:
The Ten Commandments
for Visiting a New Age Ashram
During the past two decades, a curious
phenomenon has swept this nation. Inspired by the
teachings of several Master souls from the East, an
unusually large number of ashrams have made their
appearance on the scene -- spiritual retreats
designed to provide seekers of the truth with a
focused environment in which to practice their
particular spiritual path.
While most people who spend time in an ashram
are extremely dedicated and sincere, there still
remains a goodly number who, in their attempt to
have 'an experience,' miss the point completely.
Seduced by the Western notion of cause and effect,
they somehow think that spiritual attainment is
related to the way they act -- as if God were some
kind of transcultural Santa Claus looking for good
little boys and girls to bring his shiny red
firetrucks to. Not surprisingly, the spirit of the
law is all too often traded for the letter -- a
letter that, no matter how many stamps are put on
it, is continually returned for insufficient
postage. Surrender is replaced by submission;
patience by hesitation; and humility by timidity.
Alas, in the name of finding themselves, our
God-seeking brothers and sisters have tended to
lose the very thing that makes them truly human --
their individuality.
And so, with great respect to your personal God,
your Guru, your Guru's Guru, and your favorite
tax-deductible charity, I humbly offer you the
following soul-saving tips should you decide to
visit (or move into) the local ashram of your
choice. Take what you can, leave the rest, and
remember -- it's not whether your shoes are on or
off, but if your heart is open...
1. DO NOT CHANGE THE WAY YOU WALK
Most visitors to a new age ashram think they have
to change the way they walk if they are truly going
to have a spiritual experience. Somehow, they
believe there is a direct correlation between the
way they move their feet and the amount of 'grace'
or 'blessings' about to enter their lives. The
'ashram walk,' is actually a not-too-distant cousin
of the 'museum walk,' the curious way a person
slows down and shuffles knowingly, yet humbly, past
a Monet (or is it a Manet?), silently 'getting' the
essence of the Masterpiece even as they move
noddingly towards that incomprehensible cubist
piece in the next room. If you like, think of the
ashram walk as the complete opposite of the
on-the-way-to-work-walk or the
exiting-a-disco-in-New York walk. Simply put, the
ashram walk is a way of moving that practitioners
believe will attract small deer from nearby forests
-- deer that will literally walk right up to them
and eat from their hand -- more proof to anyone in
the general vicinity that they are, in fact,
enlightened souls, humble devotees, children of
God, or the so-far-unacknowledged successors to
their guru's lineage.
Ideally, the ashram walk should be taken in
sandals, though Reeboks or Chinese slippers will do
in a pinch. Cowboy boots are definitely out, as are
galoshes, high heels, and Chuck Taylor Converse
All-Stars.
2. DO NOT, UNDER ANY CIRCUMSTANCES, SUCCUMB TO
THE ASHRAM 'NOD'
Closely related to the ashram walk, the ashram nod
is routinely practiced in spiritual retreats the
world over. And while no one completely comprehends
it's divine origins, many believe it began when a
blissful ashram brother simply forgot the name of
his roommate on his way to the bathroom. Instead of
issuing the familiar sanscrit phrase of the week,
our trend-setting friend simply tightened his lips,
looked at the ground and... well... nodded. Now,
every time you walk by someone in the ashram, you
are half-expected to flash them the nod, the
non-verbal equivalent of 'Hi! I know you know, and
you know I know, and you know that I know that you
know, and in my knowing, I know that I know you
know, and by so knowing, need not speak, since
words are finite and cannot express the knowingness
which the two of us (being one) share from such a
knowful place. Know what I mean?'
3. DO NOT JUDGE ANYONE, INCLUDING YOURSELF
This is the hardest of all commandments to obey.
Why? Because spiritual environments not only bring
out the best in people, they also bring out the
worst. And while the worst is often more difficult
to detect than the bliss of people wanting you to
notice how blissful they are, the higher you get,
the easier it is to notice -- that is, if you are
looking for it. Of course, it would be very easy to
spend your entire ashram visit noticing all the
subtle ego trips going on around you. Resist this
temptation with all your might! Do not, I repeat,
do not, focus on the stuff that would make good
material for this article. You have no right. In
fact, you have absolutely no idea why anyone is
there, what their motivation is, or how they will
learn the kinds of lessons you are absolutely sure
they need to learn. In reality, you are most likely
seeing your own projections -- those disowned parts
of your self that you've refused to acknowledge all
these years: your spiritual groupie, your brownie
point collector, your junkie for more experience,
your suburban yogi , your guilty seeker of God,
your con man, your eunuch, your Peter Pan, your
resolution maker, your ass watcher, your glutton
for humble pie, your seeker of the perfect mate,
your closet fanatic, your too patient listener,
your definer of ecstasy, your flaming bullshit
artist, your know-it-all, your have-it-all, your
reader of too many Shirley McLaine books, and your
spring-headed bower towards anyone with more than
two devotees. All of them are you! Every single one
of them! Don't judge them. Love them! Bring them
tea! Rub their feet every chance you get!
4. DO NOT THINK THAT THIS IS THE ONLY PLACE
WHERE IT IS HAPPENING
Ashram aficionados have a marked propensity to
think that the grounds they inhabit are somehow
more blessed than any place else on earth -- that
they are privy to a special command performance by
God, revealing himself in thousands of exotic ways
for those lucky enough to be there, while
thousands, nay millions, of Ed Koch-like souls are
stumbling around in uncool places recently vacated
by the Power of Life so a very cosmic thing can
happen here and only here this weekend. Life, in
fact, is often perceived as so good in the ashram,
that the rest of the world becomes eerily cast as
the 'booby prize.' Indeed, to ashram dwellers,
everything else is simply referred to as 'the
world,' much like Manhattanites speak of New
Jersey. In short, the ashram comes to represent all
that is good -- about God, about the Guru, about
life itself. Somehow ('and I don't know how, but
you could ask anyone who was there this weekend')
flowers seem sweeter at the ashram, the moon seems
fuller, the air seems cleaner. Even the bread
tastes better. If you glimpse a shooting star at
night, it's the 'guru's grace.' If you see a double
rainbow, it's directly over the meditation
hall.
I guess it's all in how you look at it. The same
shooting star convincing you that your guru is, in
fact, the Supreme Guru, was also seen by a plumber
named 'Leroy' who just happened to be drinking a
beer in between innings of the Mets game. His
conclusion? The Mets were gonna win 20 of the next
25 and bring the pennant home to Flushing! What do
the signs in the sky (or what we perceive as signs)
really mean? Isn't the whole world our ashram?
Isn't the whole universe our ashram? Isn't the real
issue one of appreciating what is happening all
around us? The flowers? The stars? The beggars
asking for spare change? Flowers aren't any sweeter
at the ashram. It's our willingness to breathe
deeply and enjoy them that's different. What's
stopping us from being in this place right now?
What's stopping us from realizing that the very
ground beneath our feet is the promised land --
wherever we happen to be at the time.
5. DO NOT PUT A RED DOT ON YOUR FOREHEAD IF YOU
DON'T WANT TO
Unless you've been living in a trailer park your
whole life, you probably already know what the red
dot thing is all about. That's right. The third
eye. The sixth chakra. High holiness. INDIA!! While
sometimes mistaken for a beauty mark or a random
bit of watermelon, the little red dot is actually a
useful reminder to focus one's attention on the
space between the eyebrows, which, for some people,
is where God lives (or if not lives, at least
vacations). Nothing wrong with that, now is there?
Still, you have to concede that the third eye isn't
the only spot on the human body that's sacred. What
about the earlobes? The belly button? The nipples?
They come from God, too -- not too mention chakras
#1 - 5 and the highly under-represented center of
consciousness at the crown of the head. Sacred,
every one of them! Don't you think that, if the
body is the temple of the soul, it follows that our
entire physical structure is sacred? Shouldn't we
be covered from head to toe with little red dots?
And if so, why is it that we routinely quarantine
people with measles -- the very people who have
selflessly chosen to manifest disease just to
remind us to honor our body's ultimate
holiness?
6. PLAY WITH THE CHILDREN
The only sentient beings free from the collective
mentality of ashram life are the children. Children
visiting ashrams, in fact, behave the same way the
world over no matter what adjectives their elders
use for the unspeakable name of God. When they're
hungry, they eat. When they're tired, they sleep.
They cry when they want to, laugh for no reason,
consume ice cream without guilt, and rarely wonder
why your picture of the Master is bigger, newer, or
better framed.
7. FART AT YOUR OWN RISK
If you fart, and there's no one around to hear it
in the ashram, did it happen? And if it did happen,
does that mean you've been disrespectful? Is the
resident Guru able to hear you? And if he or she is
meditating, out of the country, or dead, is their
guru or their guru's guru able to hear you? And if
so, so what? Will you be reborn as a gerbil? Does
the Guru fart? And if it's OK for him or her to
pass wind, why not you? OK, so it's their ashram
and you're a guest. But after all, aren't we all
guests here? Even the Guru? Who do they answer to?
And if it's not the same one you're answering to,
what the hell are you doing getting up at five in
the morning and sitting cross-legged? Maybe the
real question isn't whether or not it's permissible
to fart in the ashram, but how you fart. For
instance, if you're farting out of a blatant
disregard for the Master's teachings or the
sincerity of his or her followers, you might want
to reconsider where you're coming from. However, if
your farting is just a random release of gas,
relax! Give yourself the benefit of the doubt. You
see, a typical visit to the ashram often quickens
one's ability to 'let go' -- so what you call
'farting' may, in fact, be a timely sign of your
evolving spiritual condition.
8. DO NOT THINK YOU ARE HIGHER OR LOWER THAN
ANYONE ELSE
One of the favorite pastimes of people visiting a
spiritual retreat is comparing themselves to
everyone else. 'See the guy over there carrying
firewood? He's a very old soul -- way older than
me. Been on the path for years. And that dude
laughing hysterically in the corner? That's Shiva.
Oops, he can probably see through me, maybe I
better walk around the other way.'
Want to save yourself some time? Don't try to
figure out how 'on the path' anybody else is. It's
impossible. Stare into the eyes all you want, watch
for tell-tale signs of liberation, but when it
comes right down to it, the only conclusion you'll
reach will be your own -- one that may have
absolutely nothing to do with the anything but your
own projections. Face it, how accurate is your
assessment going to be when 98 percent of humanity
couldn't tell that the 'carpenter' from Galilee had
something special going for him? Indeed, it's not
at all unlikely that the beer-bellied, first-time
visitor to the ashram you met this morning at
breakfast is, at this very moment, being treated
like a spiritual mongoloid by everyone who meets
him (repeatedly being asked if 'this is your first
time') when, in fact, the beer-bellied, first-time
visitor is actually the reincarnation of
Buddha.
9. DO NOT THINK THAT YOU ARE GOING TO GET
SOMETHING
Many people visit an ashram because they want to
get something. They want 'clarity' or
'contentment,' 'enlightenment' or 'grace,'
'blessings' or 'piece of mind.' At the very least,
they want their business to improve or their
marriage to be saved. Alas, they miss the point
completely: If you try to get, you will lose, left
only with the sinking feeling of having just bought
$300 worth of lottery tickets only to learn that
some electrician from Staten Island just won the
whole thing. It's really very simple. You don't go
to an ashram (or a Teacher, for that matter) to
get. You go to give, to let go -- to relax your
grip on the very thing that's been separating you
from getting all these years: Your grasping. Your
fear. Your well-rehearsed strategy to realize
God.
10. DO NOT FEEL COMPELLED TO CHANGE YOUR
NAME
OK, so your name is Joey. Ever since you were knee
high to a can of Cheese Whiz, everyone called you
Joey -- as in, 'Hey, Joey, what's goin' down,
bro'?' Yeah, you grew up in Brooklyn, cut school
once a week, and dated a chick named Angela with
very big boobs. Great. So, here you are at the
ashram and ba-bing, you run smack into a bunch of
dudes with names like Arjuna, Govinda,
Namdev,Shanti, Krishna. 'Hey,' you think to
yourself, 'maybe they got something I don't.'
Guess what? They do. They have a spiritual name
given to them by their Guru -- names that make
their mothers somewhat close-lipped around the
canasta table. And while these names are clearly
given with a purpose, the fact of the matter is --
they are irrelevant. Do you think the people in
India who have spiritual experiences get their
names changed to Eddie, Gino, Edna, or Shirley ?
Hey, what difference does it make? You are not your
name -- even if your namesake was enlightened. It
doesn't matter what they call you, when it's time
to go, you're gone. The only name worth knowing at
that time is God's name -- and that, my friend, no
matter how many mantras you've memorized, can never
be pronounced.....
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